We were experiencing some entitlement issues the with our children the other night (taking an upcoming vacation for granted). Thus, we decided it was time for an immediate change! They werenâ€™t understanding all of the work that goes into earning money to pay for lifeâ€™s extra things. They were taking all of the fun activities weâ€™ve been able to do like travel, staying at a hotel, eating out, going to a zoo, visiting a childrenâ€™s museum, etc. as the usual routine and nothing special (i.e. little or no value). We want them to understand the cost and time it takes to earn those things, and to really appreciate how special they are.
The other night, I sat down with Nadia (our nine year old) and explained to her what minimum wage is and how much it pays per hour. Also, we had the discussion that without a degree and with her current skill set, that minimum wage was an appropriate amount. In Washington, minimum wage is going up to $11 per hour. That being said, she owes us $1 an hour to offset the cost of us having to replace the dishwasher that she broke (she stood on the door of the old one). Her penalty ceases on August 12th of 2017. It was $800 to replace that stupid dish washer! I digress. So, I decided $10 an hour is fair.
Itâ€™s now Christmas break, and the girls want to do quite a few special thingsâ€Šâ€”â€Šlike rollerskating, going to an indoor trampoline place, going out for frozen yogurt, going out for ramen soup, going to the local zoo, and more. Thatâ€™s all fine, but theyâ€™re going to earn it.
The first activities the girls wanted to do where the aforementioned rollerskating, bouncy place, and frozen yogurt. We looked up the cost of skating with the skate rentalsâ€Šâ€”â€Šwith tax itâ€™s almost $10/person. I explained that it would take an hour of work to earn that (Anyaâ€™s only five, so she only has to do 30 minutes). The rules are:
- I will not be paying them cashâ€Šâ€”â€Šfor now at least.
- No complaining, whining, or dragging their feet. If they do, then they are essentially fired for the day, and no compensation will be given.
- We will be hands on with regards to training them, and we will not ask them to do anything that we would not do ourselves.
- No matter what, they have to do the work before the earn the privilegesâ€Šâ€”â€Šno in indebtedness or credit will be allowed.
Nadia and I spent an hour cleaning the bathroom downstairs. I taught her how to clean the toilet, change the garbage can liner, clean the mirror, clean the shower (I did that due to the height difference between the two of us), sweep and clean the floor, and most importantly have respect for cleaning chemicals. She did a great job, and I reiterated that she earned herself a trip to the rollerskating rink the following day. She was quite pleased with that.
Vanessa had given Anya age appropriate tasks and projects that she could do during the same time Nadia and I were working (although less than half the time).
We got up early and got to work. The sooner they could get their work done, the sooner we could go rollerskating. Like I said, they had already earned the skating, but they were now earning the following dayâ€™s activityâ€Šâ€”â€Šindoor bouncy place and frozen yogurt (the lunch place is $7.50 per child and I figured $2.50 for their frozen yogurt and toppings is fair). Thus, they needed to do another hour (1/2 for Anya) to earn that privilege.
Two jobs had to be completed, the bottom of the fridge and drawers therein were gross and needed to be cleaned. The upstairs bathroom need to be cleaned as well. The plan was for Nadia to do the upstairs bathroom by herself, since I trained her the day before, and for Anya to clean the bottom of the fridge since sheâ€™s closer to the ground. Nadia was dragging her feet getting ready, so I gave Anya the option of which chore she wanted to do. Anya chose the cleaning of the upstairs bathroom, so Nadia got the grosser of the two jobs.
Like Nadia the day before, I trained Anya in the art of cleaning the bathroomâ€Šâ€”â€Šshe did a great job! She actually worked a full hour, which was fine since she didnâ€™t work a full 30 minutes the prior day). Vanessa supervised Nadiaâ€™s cleaning of the fridge.
Now, weâ€™re only on day three, but so far so goodâ€¦
Now anytime the girls want to go do something special, theyâ€™ll need to earn it. Weâ€™ve already talked about renewing our zoo membership. Thereâ€™s four of us, total cost is about a hundred dollars. So, theyâ€™ll each need to earn their portion. Two and a half hours for our nine year old (i.e. $25), and an hour and fifteen minutes for our five year old.
During the rollerskating, both girls skated longer than they ever had and didnâ€™t want to leave within an hour. I asked them why, and itâ€™s because they wanted to make sure they got as much as they could since they had to do the work to earn it. The following day, when we went to the bouncy place, and they used every minute of their allowed time (the establishment gives them a 90 minute allotment). With the frozen yogurt, both of them took their time enjoying it and savoring it. Again, I asked them why they took so long, and it was because they earned it.